Why do I eat if it's not hunger?

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(No 3 in a series of 6)

Last week we looked at small and achievable changes we can make to our eating habits. Today we'll look at other habits or feelings that lead us to eating more than we need.

We often find ourselves turning to food for very understandable reasons. It’s natural to seek comfort or relief through eating, especially during life's challenging moments. However, while food can provide temporary solace, it may also contribute to longer-term difficulties. If you’re ready to explore new ways to handle these challenges, you might discover some helpful skills along the way. Use the checklist below to identify any ways that you use food rather than for fuel.

The effect of unhelpful eating habits

You may have noticed that your eating habits or weight have started to create obstacles in your day-to-day life. Perhaps you feel out of breath more easily, experience discomfort when getting in and out of your car, or find yourself needing to buy larger clothes. Maybe you’ve even felt a sense of guilt or frustration about your food choices or you have been prescribed medication to help manage the effects of obesity. It can be helpful to take a moment to reflect on how these difficulties are affecting you. Take a moment to consider any specific challenges your weight or eating habits have caused.

Time for a longer-term habit fix?

While food may help us manage in the short term, it often brings about more challenges over time. Now, imagine if you could make a change—what would that look like for you? What new opportunities would open up? What activities or experiences do you feel you’re missing out on? Mull over any positive changes you envision.

The underlying reasons behind our eating habits don’t simply disappear on their own. By taking steps to address those root causes, you can find more lasting solutions. For instance, if you find yourself eating out of boredom, are there other activities that might engage or excite you? If you’re eating to cope with anxiety or stress, are there ways to address the source of those feelings? It can also be helpful to think about what advice you’d give to a close friend who is facing similar struggles. What steps might you suggest? 

What are your thoughts so far?

Even if you’re not ready to make changes just yet, you’ve already taken an important first step by identifying the real reasons behind your eating. That’s a huge accomplishment—well done! If you feel you need more support as you navigate this journey, don’t hesitate to reach out. I'm here to help.